Gender divide

A sexologist said that "Man loves a woman to have sex but a woman has sex to get love" Sex simply is not between the legs but between the ears. The point which I want to make is how understanding of sexuality evolves is the way one which construes this pervert mindset. The conditioning of a male mind begins at the onset of puberty. That is where the objectification of woman in terms of her body starts. The tools of information are the porn sites. The glorification of masculinity is the discussion. The heritage abuses are learnt with intent. The fact that these abuses are eternal. Seldom some new abuses are found but are short lived.
By the time any realisation takes place we are grown ups.
To break these shackles one has to break that mindset which treats woman as an object. Shankeracharya said Nari sthandhar nabhi nivishya mithya maya moha vishya. Yeh tan maas vasaadhi vikaar. Mansi vichar baarambaar.
This categorically dismisses the thought which objectifies the woman.
The pleasure derived at behest of unconscious mind or happiness through compassion and love.  I think the choice should not be difficult.

Accepting New

The choice factor however one interprets but if given a choice between old and new, the kind of hazards and the factor that one will go through does not leave much for the new. The road less travelled factor is often sublimed by so called wisdom which always favours the old and time tested. The futility of mind plays a big role in these decisions. The mind full of memories is something which does not allow one to trust. to trust is to be a fool but it is the trust which is the only factor that builds experience. One who can afford the luxury of trust is the blessed fool. When one has faith in ownself ability to trust is formed.

Known Devil choice is often advocated. Our life is all about decisions we took when confronted with choices. On a river bend once we decide which direction has to be taken,  We will not get back to the moment of decision making process again.

Hind sight provides imaginary wisdom. Accepting with the consequences of one's decision by rejoicing is a tool to access life in present. 

To tred with new and to live in present are difficult choices. Levels of difficulty raise one's strength. As long as major contradiction is not involved we can administer courage to tackle any level of difficulty. Solutions to problems can be challenging and time consuming but change comes with choosing new and now.